“Your old self is gone but the new you isn’t fully born yet.” – Ri Turner

I messed around and got sick (poor diet smh) so I ended up on YouTube the other day, bored. When I saw this title, it spoke so directly to where I’m at right now. I’ve been aware of the fact that I’m going through a spiritual rebirth and feeling like I’m getting ready to bloom again – but not quite there yet. The cognitive dissonance, as Ri Turner mentioned, can be stifling at times and I wonder how I’m gonna move forward. Then I take another step. And even when I’m scared my world will fall apart, I end up ok. I take another breath. Say another prayer. And the sky doesn’t fall. 

10 Keys for Transformation

I took some notes from Ri’s video to highlight my favorite points she made, and I wanted to share them with you:

(Quotations ” ” are from Ri’s video; other points are paraphrased)

1. “You are not lost. You’re just in an uncomfortable stage in your life where, your old self is gone, but your new self isn’t fully born yet. You’re in the midst of transformation.” -Marcos Alvarado
2. “We’re going to relearn ourselves over and over and over, because that’s what transformation is all about.”
3. Sometimes when we’re growing, we engage in behaviors that comforted our old selves but don’t serve us anymore. Then Ri says ask yourself, “Are these thoughts my thoughts? Are these values my values? 

It’s important to let go of what was.”

4. “Start with a clean slate,” says Ri. Here she reminds me of something I used to say to myself often, any moment is a good moment to change for the better.

“If I’m breathing, I can start new,” says Ri.

5. “You’re at war with yourself, and you’re the only person who can end that war.”
6. “There’s so much noise going on mentally, but when you quiet that noise, you get a clearer understanding of who you are and what you want.”
7. “Micromanaging the universe” – feeling the need to control outcomes

“I said to myself, ‘Nothing in your life has ever worked out how you thought it was going to work out.’ And I’m here. I’m breathing. I’m thriving. 

Everything has worked out better than I could’ve imagined.

The universe is like ‘I got you, if you workin I’m workin.’ And that brings me so much peace” – Ri

8. Give yourself grace if you fall back into old habits, because hey – you noticed it. Being self aware is a win.
9. “Enjoy the in-between. Enjoy the transformation that is taking place.”
10. If you can’t find peace and happiness where you’re at now, you’ll be looking for it in future spaces.

I like to come back to notes like these for a mental refresh. And when I say come back to I mean I’ll forget about it and find it later because I write so much already. Inspiration finds me at the right time.

May inspiration find you as well.

“And, when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.” – The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho